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Don’t kiss me during the fireworks. Kiss me after and give everyone else something to look at once chaos has passed. Don’t kiss me when you don’t know what else to say, kiss me when that’s all that needs to be said. Don’t kiss me at all the right times, kiss me mid sentence because my lips were moving, and you were jealous of the air because they weren’t moving on yours. Don’t read up on old fairy tales I don’t want a fairy tale. I want real and in the moment. So kiss me when you’re up in flames and about to burst. Kiss me when the tears are doing all the work. Kiss me hard and kiss me good.
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projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
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projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
Zoom Info
projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
Zoom Info
projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
Zoom Info
projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
Zoom Info
projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family 
nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures
Zoom Info

projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family

nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures

sexologist:

My #taxes are complicated as a small business owner (and getting married last year complicates it more) so I have an #accountant I have been going to for years. I am the business owner (not Ryan), I am his client (not Ryan), I am the one paying for his service (not Ryan), I am the one sitting in front of him (not Ryan), and he asks “Will Ryan be OK if your name goes first?” I literally didn’t get it at first. “It’s just that of the 15,000 returns I have prepared in my career, I have never seen the woman’s name go first as the primary taxpayer.” It wasn’t malicious, just straight up “This is new to me.” So this #taxreturn you see here is a revolutionary act, apparently. #thetimestheyareachangin #everydaysexism

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the-unpopular-opinions:

The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called

In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I  am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.

When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man. 

Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:

  • Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
  • I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
  • One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
  • I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
  • Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
  • I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
  • Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.

These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this? 

I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT” 

This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him. 

Misogyny affects  all women negatively. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT

As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.
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